Contrasting Brother and Me

Originally published 2014-08-08

My brother manages the estate. He is the only one that I speak to about this matter.

He refuses to estimate how much I will inherit when mother dies.   He says unnamed experts would invest the money and if they made a lot I would live off more and if they lost I would live off less... Beyond the fact that his family is wealthier, there is a definite conflict of interest between my brother, his extended family and myself as to how much of the inheritance I am entitled to. He and his family travel to the United States, and beyond, private schools for his children, weekend expensive skiing trips, and many types of dental surgery which I am denied.  The problem is that I believe these are things that will be covered by the estate as necessities.

My needs, I fear will be considered quite the opposite. I know this through experience. I have also been denied the many things that were considered mine through education and learning in my parents’ house.  I have not been on a good and safe vacation for years.  How about seasonal acquisition of good affordable new clothes? What about my psychiatrist?  Will he be paid when my mother passes away?  What about a place to live that I enjoy?  Will I have to leave to go into utmost poverty and instability because whoever takes responsibility for me thinks it is "too expensive"? Will my brother and his family be given a much larger amount of the estate that is to be divided equally among only two heirs, because he has always been wealthier and because his needs are much more expensive than mine?  Will I not have recourse to the fundamental rights I have been denied up to this point for this reason?  Will my personal situation not be improved because I have “simple Needs”.  One of these simple needs is that I am perfectly happy living beyond the pale.  Another one is that I, even worse will be retired, from that very disgraced position.

My brother said he has a copy of the will.   I do not know where to go to get a copy as an heir.  The estate is to be divided upon my mother’s death equally between myself and my brother. My father said the sum is large enough for me to live much more comfortably than I do at this time.

My brother says there is no money at all and there will be no difference.

If my brother has uncontrolled access to the will and the management of our finances I do not see this in any way changing.  As a matter of fact the situation might conceivable worsen. He has often has threatened giving no financial support at all.